Counseling: Do I Need It?
"How do I know if I need counseling?"
If you have asked yourself this question, there's a good chance that counseling can help you. The Source for Women cannot tell you if you need counseling, but we will help you think through some important questions. Don't be ashamed to ask for advice from counselors; they talk every day to people who want to make their lives better.
When should I get counseling?
You should get counseling when:
- You feel you can no longer manage a problem on your own.
- Your life is being harmed by a problem you cannot seem to solve.
- Your problem is getting worse, not better.
- You have lost interest in life or think it's not worth living.
- You have emotions that cause lasting pain and distress, such as sadness or anxiety.
- Your relationships with others have a lot of conflict.
- You and your family don't seem able to cooperate with one another.
- School or life is overwhelming you.
- What problems can be helped by counseling?
- There are many problems that can be helped by counseling.
- Counseling helps when:
- Something about you or your actions keeps you from being yourself or feeling good about life
- You have a problem that you could control better, if you knew how.
- You can understand yourself better and make new choices.
- Your mood is preventing you from being satisfied.
Some people feel helpless when they begin counseling. It's important to remember that counseling will help you to find new options. Then you can start to gain more control over your life.
Can't I just talk to a friend?
Friends can be a great support in times of need. But friends cannot do what counselors do. Counselors are skilled at helping people change the way they think, act, and feel. Friends don't have this training, so they can miss important aspects of what you tell them.
Friends can offer practical advice, but they often do not know how to help you get to the core of your problem. Also, friends are not objective in helping you with your problems.
- You can't always tell a friend everything you can tell a counselor.
- Your friend may have trouble dealing with your problem. He or she may share your problem with others to get advice. Your counselor is bound by law to keep your problems private.
- A counselor is trained to help you get at your true feelings and to help you cope with your feelings. Friends often just support how we feel.
- Your problem may come from ties with family or friends.
How does counseling work?
Counseling is a job that you and your counselor must perform together. In other words, your counselor does not "do" something to you to make you better. You must work together. You need to trust each other. You must feel safe enough to tell your counselor your true feelings and thoughts.
A counselor can help you:
- Understand yourself better
- Figure out what's bothering you
- Find how to change what's bothering you
- Change how you react to people and events
- Look at your actions, thoughts, and feelings more clearly
- Find out what's holding you back
- Find out what's important to you
- Stop actions that are harmful to you
- Manage everyday problems
At The Source for Women we are committed to listening to you and empowering you to make informed choices that will help you to live life significantly.